Great, poignant life lessons?

Personal reflections….

“In our long judicial practice, we’ve come across impetus upstarts like him. They come, they go and as it behooves they fade away,” was a very memorable quote from one lawyer in the former AG Charles Mugane Njonjo’s big legal team in 1981 when he faced treason trial in a legendary case prosecuted by the then President Daniel Moi’s government.

Inspired by this poignant quote, I can also claim thus:

” in my long interactions with family and friends and people/ Society, I’ve come across people of sorts. I go to them and at times they come to me some often pretenders and others genuine. Many have come and gone and as it behooves, they have faded away from my life  memory  but not without great lessons.”

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Among friends & family, some of the lessons i have learnt…..

there exists both genuinely caring and loving family members and friends and equally jealousy and malicious family members and friends.

And given that one  cannot choose family since it is God given, it is imperative that one chooses friends wisely and live equally wisely with family members and the friends.

The advice–“never trust anyone totally but rather trust God and yourself the most,” rings a bell here.

‘Friends’, even family members will ‘concerningly’ probe about one’s wellbeing and the issues one faces, and especially challenges, and then go about discussing the same.. Some ofcourse suggesting… “Let’s us pray for our bro /sis….”

Some will definitely and caringly & genuinely pray about the issues but many also will just use the issues as agendas for their consecutive meetings /talks every time ‘concerningly’ raising the issues, seeking updates and declaring that they are continuing with the ‘prayers’.

Among family members and peers, silent, rather cold wars &  competitions appear to be always simmering with  some always trying to outdo siblings and some senior or junior families, (as per their parents’ birth positions) & even peers, trying to outdo others.

… Those not ‘doing well’ apparently even due to inexplicable and rather complex spiritual or physical reasons are deemed as failures who now earn the ‘cannot be redeemed’ title and wrongly qualify to become the everyday topic of discussions every time the ‘caring’ family members and friends meet.

“Kwani what is wrong with mbari ya so & so? Kwani ni nini mbaya haki? (“What’s wrong surely, honestly? What’s wrong my god, Seriously with that family?!”

“Yule rafiki yetu ako aje? Haki nahurumianga hawa watu.. Anyway twendelee kuwakumbuka kwa maombi,” are some of the signature opening words when such friends and family members meet and start their catching up talks ..

“Wachana na wao.. Ni shinda zao.. Sii mama yao alitukana baba yake… Hata ruracio ilikataliwa… Wataisha wote wasipochunga,” is a possible response from the other of the ‘praying’ family members and friends…. 🤔🤔🤔😊😊 as the catching up conversations continue…

“Haki dear nimekumiss… Kwani ulienda wapi? Amauliendanga  majuu bila goodbye? ama God alikufungulia milango ukatusahau?” the same family members and friends will pretentiously ambush you next time you meet them.

“Haki dear wachanga kujificha hivyo,” they will continue slyly seeking for more information about you so that they can maliciously oil and fuel their conversations in the next meeting with the ‘bosom’ family members and friends whom they value more than you and your family….

And as the book of Proverbs declares,– wisdom is out there standing even on building /structures concourses and other high streets stones, points and locations, crying out to people to embrace Him….

Is not this then the right moment & time for people to really embrace Him??