Maturity & expectations and experiences

Personal reflections/personal chronicles

Maturity & expectations and experiences:

As i grow older every other day, I’m always thankful to God almighty for the gifts of life and experiences in life whether good or bad.Earlier today, for instance, I decided to appreciate the services of a Waitress with the coin i could afford as tip but she returned it to me and said thank you. This is the first time my tip has been declined and I left wondering why this happened as I was acting in good faith. I often like appreciating people whenever I can. Later I overcame that feeling kind of like of rejection and surmised that she had her own reasons which I didn’t want to ask about.

Psychology teaches us to have presence of mind, mindfulness and alertness.. That this is how to live life fully and garner fruitful experiences, we are told.

Among my experiences especially having related with very many people– family and friends who have also exited the stage of life, I’m always amazed.

That billions have died since the times of Abraham, Jacob, Isaac, Gideon, Elijah & Elisha and others and none has ever returned. Yet they are all rested or even busy living another life someplace.. As a Christian yet, I believe they are resting somewhere in quietness.. 

Many of my kin, relatives and friends have also died and though I miss them, I’ve realized the helplessness of human beings especially at their deathbeds or hour of death 😢.

The helplessness, I feel later translates into some ‘positive’ loneliness which makes me realize that it is only God almighty who really can help me when I’m all alone and when in need 🤔..

So these experiences teach me to trust God every other day especially because as we human beings mature, we find that siblings and relatives care less about other people and concentrate more on their nucleus families in efforts to provide care and providence which is the most reasonable thing to do after all …… Even after the children leave your ‘nest’ for good to mind their families and other businesses, you must realize that you are on your own and must handle your ‘own-ness’ and ‘aloneness’ honorably and courageously…your spouse or partner or helper may not fully comprehend your own unique needs and the issues that keep becoming the new reality daily. So you must lean on God and trust Him as your only reliable friend…that becomes your new reality!

As an ‘outsider’ to others including your erstwhile, assumed closest people (you remain an insider only in your private, quiet life), life teaches you that you must be more and more independent and self-reliant but ultimately to rely more and more on God even after you have put all your best efforts to live fully, responsibly and as a caring and loving adult..

… You learn to reduce your levels of expectations from other humans, apart from your very own self.. That you are, really, the only person who can either let yourself down or really lift yourself up at times of need or crises…. 

…….The each man and woman be for himself and God almighty for all of us reality rings its bell the loudest during such times and moments…

Yet there is joy in trusting God almighty fully and doing your best…it does no harm to keep wondering on the mysteries of God since you cannot possibly get answers to all the issues and things that often trouble your mind and soul yet you get comforted to know that you will one day meet your Father and God and get chances to ask Him so many questions and being a loving Father, I believe He shall provide convincing answers in His unfathomable and ultimate wisdom…

And the fact that you shall one day meet your Father, God and Creator one day face- to- face for an exclusive chat, should further inspire you to live for Him and to do His will lest you lose that golden opportunity 🙋‍♂️.

It further reminds you that life is a journey worth traveling… That despite the odds, you can still enjoy the little things of the world like watching the skies unfold on a bright, blissful day or as you accidentally meet and watch a chameleon or even a spider coiling trying to run away from you……You realize that despite the challenges and hardships and disappointments of life, indeed God almighty put in you honor as a human being which initially and actually puts fear in other creatures when they meet you despite the fact that they may afterwards decide to attack and harm you…

Life is worth living after all is your ultimate realization.